Bringing our lessons through takes more than awareness. It is an active process that demands a courageous willingess to live our experiences right through to completion. This means staying with our feelings until they are truly done with us, no matter how uncomfortable they are. Although we may not see it at first, there is a method to our sadness.
Oftentimes we distract ourselves out of the learning, particularly when the feelings are painful. We all know people like this. We have all been people like this. We choose not to get the hint. We ignore our grumbles and truth aches at all costs. If we don't break the habit, we just come back the next time with the same lessons waiting in the wings.
The body is far more than a vessel for the soul. It is the field where the soul's lessons are harvested. It is the breeding ground for the soul's emergence. In order to grow forward, we must bring our suffering through our emotional body until our spiritual lessons are birthed. We must cell our soul.
The recipe is simple. Be authentic and true to your felt experience. Feel the heartbreak. Feel the anger. Feel all of your feelings. If you had a cruel father, move your anger and feel into the heartbreak below. If you lose a loved one, go through all the stages of grieving. Don't stop halfway, never stop halfway. Let the feelings tell you if the fire was destructive or benevolent. Some fires are creating the way for new life.
Be careful not to go into your head. Unless your knowing arises from your felt experience, it is meaningless. Stay with the emotional process until your soul food is digested. It will be difficult at times, but the feelings will only hurt until they convert. Repressed emotions are unactualized spiritual lessons. Once they make it all the way through the conversion tunnel, the lesson will be revealed...